Youngsters take a hasty plunge, but can't bear to stay in the wedlock for long; the cases are rising by the day, say marriage counsellors
Like a script straight from a Bollywood potboiler, it started off with a post graduate student of Social Welfare meeting a standard X dropout on a PMPML bus. Within a week, they fell in love and decided to get married. The latest twist to the story is that the marriage has now gone sour.
The story pertains to an application for divorce filed by the girl, an ex-student of Fergusson College, with the Special Cell for Women and Child (SCWC) at Pune rural police headquarters four months ago. The harsher realities of life have caught up with the girl who realised that she married a man below her stature and is now unsatisfied with her lesser-earning, lesser-educated husband who she claims is possessive.
This isn’t an isolated case though. The officials of the cell say they receive several cases where youngsters marry in haste and get disillusioned soon after. In this case, SCWC senior counsellor Suresh Suryawanshi and counselor Vaishali Ranade are counselling the couple for the past couple of months.
In her application, the girl states that she met her husband on a PMPML bus. She was studying in the final year of Masters of Social Work then and the boy worked with a private firm. Within seven days they married in court without parent’s consent.
“After a few weeks, the girl informed her parents about the marriage. Initially they were shocked but later they accepted their marriage as the boy is from the same community that they are. Following this, the girl’s parents arranged a proper marriage ceremony for them. They lived happily for nearly five months, but later she started complaining about his behaviour. She said he didn’t allow her to mingle with friends and also started taking objection to her travelling on bus and her phone calls,” said Ranade. Currently the couple is getting counselled.
Counsellors receive 10 such cases a month
Speaking to dna, Suryawanshi said, “Hasty marriages is a rising trend. We receive as many as 10 cases every month where a couple took a hasty decision and either of the two has issues with his or her partner. In such cases, we have to counsel the couple in different ways and have to tell them about their future consequences. So far we have managed to solve most of the cases.” Overall, the cell receives abut 30 cases a month. “Our main objective is to protect marriages. We give ample time to the couple during counseling. While we have got positive results in almost all of them, we have successfully resolved about 75 per cent of them.”
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