A survey has shown that the stereotype that men are sceptical about commitment and women aren’t may be finally turning on its head. What’s more, it found that nowadays, men are more likely than women to commit and also look for love rather than just sexual attraction.
The study conducted by Match.com included 5,200 single men and women between the ages of 21 and 65.
"We've known for a long time that we're seeing growing economic equality between the sexes, but it was surprising to me that men are adopting some of the attitudes that we've long attributed to women, and women are adopting the attitudes that we've long attributed to men," ABC News quoted Dr Helen Fisher, a cultural anthropologist, as saying.
"Men in just about every cohort are just as eager to marry or more eager to marry as women are. It's not true that they don't want to commit. Particularly young men, age 21 to 34, are more eager to marry than women are. Throughout every single cohort, men are more eager to have children than women are,” she added.
"[Men] also fall in love faster, they're more likely to bring a woman home to introduce her to their parents sooner, they're more likely to marry a woman who's got everything they're looking for in a partner but they're not sexually attracted to that person, than a woman is," said Fisher.
The reason for these new trends might be attributed to the fact that women are earning more than before, making them more independent.
"Women want more nights out with girlfriends than men want nights out with their male friends. They also want to have their own bank account more regularly. They want to go more on vacations by themselves than with their spouse or partner," said Fisher.
"In fact they're the least likely to go into a committed relationship unless they have a deep sense of love and a deep sense of sexual desire. They want everything by then," she added.
Another trend the survey revealed: only 17% of men and 28% of women believe the religious background of their partner is very important.
The most shocking find, Fisher said, was that that 35% of men and women said that they had initially met someone and not found them terribly attractive and they later felt passionately in love with them.
“So if I really had to say something to singles on Valentine's Day, I'd say, 'Take a second look.' Think of reasons to say, 'three strikes and I am out' and maybe your dreams will come true,” Fisher said.