While the saying goes that real men don’t cry, they can and do feel grief. Here’s how they deal with break-up sorrow...
Believe it or not but breaking up is as difficult for men to deal with, as for the women. And in some cases more so as men tend to get a self-destructive streak when they are upset and they may immerse themselves in alcohol and puff cigarettes non-stop. But there are better ways to deal with a break-up, as experts say.
Actor Muzamil Ibrahim confesses, “Break-ups are very difficult for me to deal with. I have seen my girl walk away with another man right in front of my eyes. I usually take my relationships seriously and hence I have a tough time.”
He adds, “Nevertheless, one needs to be strong. I try not to talk about what went wrong and why we broke up. I pour my heart out once to a close friend and then I don’t like to talk about it. What always works is to spend more time with your family — they are the people who really love you. Also, take up something that demands all your attention. For instance, acting doesn’t leave any scope of thinking about anything else, so that works for me.”
Just like Muzamil even TV host Hussain Kuwajerwala says that he can’t imagine his life without his wife Tina. “Thankfully, I have never experienced a break-up and never want to but I can tell you that I would be devastated if I had to be separated from my wife.” He adds, “I have seen my friends have a tough time after breaking up
but what has helped them is to come to terms with it by accepting things and moving on.”
Psychologist Deepti Makhija is of the opinion that good closure is what is required to deal better with a break-up. “Everybody is entitled to their answers and it is important that one has talked things through. Don’t just suddenly cut off ties with your partner.
Never say that you will never meet that person again as that hurts a person the most.” She adds, “By drinking alcohol, a man usually tends to become more emotionally dependent and that is the last thing they want to happen to them while they are going through a breakup, but they don’t realise that. What is best to do is to take up activities like sports or dancing, that requires one’s concentration.” Also, finding a support system is helpful. A no-no is to get into another relationship before getting completely rid of the past. “This will complicate things,” warns Deepti.
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