While some boys may think showering expensive gifts can mean a great start to a relationship, there are a few ways of saying ‘no’ if you aren’t interested.
While some boys may think showering expensive gifts can mean a great start to a relationship, there are a few ways of saying ‘no’ if you aren’t interested.
The situation may seem right out of a movie. A boy goes shopping – gives the girl a gift – but she doesn’t want it. There could be a lot of reasons for her discontentment, the girl may not like the present or simply the guy who is giving it to her. Here’s a look at a few ways to deal with the unwanted shower of gifts..
Is honesty enough?
Some girls tell it like it is. But clinical psychologist Seema Hingorrany warns, “If the girl is brutally honest and refuses the gift without any explanation, then it is sure to hurt the boy. I once came across a similar case where the guy went into an emotional disturbance. I think the girl should put her point across politely, explaining that it is an expensive gift or she already has something like that.” However, Shamita Makhija, an advertising consultant, agrees, “After I refused a gift from a guy, he took it badly and even started stalking me. I had to file a police complaint to set him right.”
Try an alternate approach
A bunch of red flowers, a huge valentine card and a diamond necklace is something every girl will cherish and dream about. But Falguni Shah who received a gift like that totally detested it because it came from the guy who was her best friend. “I had known him for over four years. He was my buddy and even helped me get out of my previous relationship because it was going nowhere. He gave me so much courage and support so I felt cheated that he fell in love with me,” she says. Chhaya Momaya explains how she could have found a way out. “I would have politely sent the gift away and asked my friend to just give me two or three white flowers as white is is a way of saying I am not interested.”
Return it back
In another instance, Reeti Mishra, explains, “In the first year of college, one of the boys was insanely in love with me. For my birthday, he bought me a very expensive watch. The ridiculous part is that he put it on my wrist in front of all my other friends. I wanted to punch him on his face, but managed to stay calm. I waited for everyone to leave and then I called him up and requested him to take it back. He complained but I did drop it at his home.” Now, this method may have it’s consequences so try it at your own risk.
So boys, while gifts may be a good idea thinking that you could buy over your girl with them is not. Just get a plain simple card with a bunch of flowers and voila, she could be all yours.
h_rashmi@dnaindia.net
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