Inner truth: Keep yourself relaxed

What is an understanding that one should have in a husband and wife relationship?

What are the differences between a pair of eyes and a camera? If capturing an image is the purpose of the eyes, then a camera will do. Eyes are meant to see the Divine. Eyes are meant to see beyond forms, like a sculptor sees an idol in a gross stone. A relationship is meant to see the truth. Hence, marriage is a commitment and not a convenience.

There are differences in a relationship. Do not give too much of importance to them. Give importance to your love and commitment, to your commonality, like you enjoy the joy rides in an amusement park, even though it appears scary. It gives you jitters but still you enjoy it. So enjoy your relationship.

It is said, ‘Do not judge.’ Is it easy not to judge? In a relationship, is it not necessary to judge?

Keep yourself relaxed. Increase your awareness and love. Not to judge should not be a conclusion. Don’t make it as a demand or compulsion. Let there be a choice. There is a difference between ‘should’ and ‘choice.’ ‘Should’ creates stress and limits you to only one option. Choose not to judge. It is not a demand but a wise choice.

Can you give an example of what one should be really aware of?

Negative emotions poison life. Like avoiding poisonous food, avoid negative emotions. Like how you are very alert when you see a poisonous snake, be very aware and alert of negative emotions. Let them come, don’t identify with them. Don’t participate in them.

Choose to create a new will, not be driven by negative emotions. They deplete your energy. They are harmful and heavy. They make your life complicated. For example somebody’s success should not be your failure. We mistakenly define our failure by somebody’s success. Jealousy is a great poison.

Swami Sukhabodhananda is the founder chairman of Prasanna Trust.

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