Even my kids do not belong to me: Poonam Dhillon

Poonam Dhillon talks to DNA about the effect of spirituality on her life.

I’m a very spiritually inclined person. I’ve always sought spirituality, whether it’s through reading books or meeting spiritual people.

More often than not, God leads me to what I want. I get taken to some of the most fabulous darshans without any planning, like my visit to the Ambe Mata ka Temple in Mount Abu.

However, most often what we miss is that our body is only incidental; it is our soul — the point of light — which is our true guiding force. I have realised that in this entire universe what is truly mine is my soul, my atma, my rooh or whatever else you call it. Over time, I’ve also understood that even my children don’t belong to me. They have their own karmic cycle and I can only guide them, up to a certain point.

In my field of work, whenever somebody passes a compliment on my looks, I feel that I have no contribution to it. I was born with a certain complexion and features. But it is my knowledge, thoughts and deeds which are my real possessions.

I don’t have a devoted time in a day or a fixed medium through which I seek connection with my higher self. I do it even for those few seconds when I’m drinking my cup of tea or a glass of water. As a ritual, I pray every night before going off to sleep.

Over the years, my spiritual side has also helped me become more tolerant and patient towards other people’s behaviour. It has taught me that people come from different backgrounds and their behaviour is pretty much shaped by that. Someone may be financially or physically not well off, but they are probably spiritually far richer than me. So my spiritual side has taught me to be tolerant and non-judgmental.