One must respect one’s colleagues even if one does not like them...

Psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty advises you on how to deal with personal problems at the workplace.

For the past two years, I was in a serious relationship with a senior colleague in the Delhi branch of my company, where I used to go for projects. Since we both worked in different offices, it never became an issue, although we still kept it a secret from our co-workers. Two months ago, we decided to break up after he stated his parents wanted him to get married soon and I wasn’t ready for it. The problem is I might now be transferred to the Delhi branch and I will have to work in close quarters with him. I’m not sure how I’ll be able to handle the situation, since he might soon be a married man. What do I do?
It is very common to go back to an old relationship because of the grief of separation. You must keep a network of friends and relatives around you for emotional support. The geographical proximity and work-related interaction should be worked out on a day-to-day basis. Use an emotional arbitrator like a colleague or a friend for support. The relationship boundaries should be clear and the grief should be worked out before engaging professionally.

My younger sister recently joined my office as a trainee in a team headed by my bitter rival. Over the past few days, I’ve noticed that my sister is being loaded with all the work. I feel like this is being done to get a rise out of me, and I don’t want to act unprofessional. At the same time, I feel bad for my sister who is struggling to cope with the extra pressure. What do I do?
The important question for you to ask is, is your sister happy? Is this a normal level of work for a trainee? Did you undergo the same amount of hard work when you first joined? This could help your sister learn faster.

You should maintain sibling contact outside the office. You have to respect everyone in office, if not like them. Do not interfere in their dynamic unless it is in a professional scope.
 
My colleague for the past five years is also my best friend. We’ve gone through a lot of ups and downs together and we used to do everything together, right from travelling to work to eating lunch. But now, she’s decided to move on to another company. I’m not sure if I can deal with her absence, especially since I don’t have any other friends at work. How do I cope with this loss?
Change is the only constant. Your friend is not leaving your life but only your workplace. Don’t invest all your emotions in one person. You should try to talk to others in the workplace and interact in new circles.

You might experience some withdrawal symptoms which is perfectly normal. Make new friends and gain some perspective through the experience.

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