Choose what you say wisely

There are thousands of agreements you make — with yourself, other people, society, your spouse, your children and your parents. But the most important agreements are the ones you make with yourself. In these agreements you tell yourself who you are, what you feel, what you believe, and how to behave. The result: Your personality.

However, often we make agreements with ourselves that bring us failure. If you want to live a life of joy and fulfilment, you have to find the courage to break those agreements that are fear-based and claim your personal power. If we don’t like the way our life is turning out, we need to change the agreements we make with ourselves.

One of the agreements that you can make is to be impeccable with your words. Choose wisely and judiciously what you say — to yourself and those around you. It is through your word that you manifest everything. What you dream, feel and really are will be manifested through your word.

One day a woman came home from a hard day’s work. She had a daughter she adored and loved. On this particular day, she was tired, tense and had a terrible headache. She wanted peace and quiet, but her daughter was in a very happy mood unaware of her mother’s condition. She was singing and jumping around the house.

This made the mother’s headache worse and she lost control. Angrily she looked at her beautiful little girl and said, “Keep quiet. You have an ugly voice. Can’t you just shut up?”

The truth is the mother reacted harshly because she was stressed, but the daughter believed what her mother said and in that moment made a pact with herself. After that day, she stopped singing. She became shy and introverted in school. She found it difficult to interact with people and everything changed in the little girl.

Whenever we hear an opinion and believe it, we make a pact and it becomes a part of our belief system. We must choose wisely the words we believe and understand their impact in our lives. If you understand this, you will begin to see the changes that can happen in your life.

Vijay Batra is a wellness guru
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