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Sidharth Malhotra admits he still ‘feels like an outsider in many ways’ even today. Baar Baar Dekho is up for release and Sid’s been giving interviews all day long. Usually hesitant to talk about his personal life, this time around, Sid makes a different call. From love and relationships to marriage and career, here’s Sidharth up-close-and-personal like never before. Read on...
I haven’t seen that film, but I can talk about my film. I have never seen a concept like this before. It’s so different because there’s no technology or gadget here. By chance, the guy gets to see the future of his love life, the mistakes he made, the things he took for granted and things he wants to change. That’s something most of us want to know but we don’t get the chance to experience it. So, it’s a fictitious story done in a real way. The plan is to package a love story in a different way. We want to give ourselves and our work priority and not commit at all. Jai is a professor and he wants to give more attention to himself and his profession. He has a childhood girlfriend Diya, played by Katrina and he’s toying with the idea of whether he should take that leap of faith and get married or not. I like how Nitya has adapted the script and she has not shown the picture, the technology and kept everything very subtle.
Girls are loving my older look a lot. So I’m safe if I look like what I do in the film at 46. That’s again something which has not been done. To mould the faces, we had extensive prosthetic work done, the hair is different and there’s a look at 60 which we haven’t revealed yet. We wanted to make it look believable. I’m a little fatter, too. Some of my costumes were used to make my character droopy. We got a team from the UK, led by Oscar- winning prosthetics expert Mark Hulio on board. It would take me two-and-a-half hours to get ready, but it has turned out really well. People are complimenting me, so my future is perfectly set! (Laughs) Playing 60 was interesting for me. I wanted to do different things in life. Be it Ek Villain, where I had negative shades, to Brothers, where I was aggressive, but at the same time, very quiet. I don’t equate things anyway. You can’t compare any of my two films and say they are similar. There’s a lot of thought behind it. In the same year, I have come from Kapoor & Sons to this. Next year too, I will have two diametrically different films. So I guess I have now set the tone.
I would tell my younger self, ‘Bro, your life is sorted. This is what you are going to be. You would be doing some 10 films in five years’. You will be successful so you need to stop stressing and just relax. Because I feel coming from the outside, we have nothing to fall back on. There are times you fall prey to the stress and anxiety of what would I do if things don’t work out. Iske baad kya? So far, I have been lucky, God has been kind. So, I would tell myself to enjoy the process much more.
I have been. I will put myself in that category. I don’t know if that’s commitment phobia, but I put my career before anything else. I have always done that since coming to Mumbai, eight years ago. When I came, I knew that a tunnel vision is zaroori so maine left-right nahi dekha. I have made some really good friends, but I didn’t have anyone special then.
Ab mujhe value thodi samajh aayi hai! (Smiles) I guess balance is a very important thing. So I feel career aapni jagah hai, I will definitely want to make maximum amount of money and be successful. But if you have nobody to share it with, it’s not a complete, wholesome life. So, I won’t say I’m ready, but I am still understanding it. I still don’t have any responsibilities, so thoda bachpana hai mujhe mein.
(Cuts in) Did she? I don’t think she said it. People must have added that.
I actually don’t read what’s written about me at all. I have been told that I should do so a lot more. I am very protective about my relationships. I think it’s a personal decision if you want to talk about who’s visiting you, who you are going out with at night or who you are hanging out with. I don’t know how it’s news even or how interesting it is to people. I can’t connect to it, so it’s very odd for me to talk about my personal life. I also feel there should be a space people don’t ask about my personal life.
My family is very sweet so they offer to come and help. At times, they do come and change the vibe of my house. Otherwise, me and my dog are the only two people living in the house. It’s very hard to be alone and live in this city, even you know it and face it everyday. It’s painful.
No, everyone is very happy. My mom and dad are pretty chilled out. I think it’s because of the service-class mentality where we only think about work, work and work. More than marriage, my parents are concerned about security. So they indirectly push me towards working more. They do give me advice, when I am too stressed out. They put things into perspective, they remind me where I came from. So I have so much gratitude to show. 10 years ago while I was still in college, if someone told me I would be sitting here talking to you and giving an interview to dna about myself, I would think that person to be a fool. Things do happen and that’s where my energies are going these days. At least for the next couple of years.
No. I believe in the institution of marriage. I have grown up in a middle-class environment where we have joint families, we have chacha-tais and I love that energy. But in today’s day and age, marriage has become just a tagline. I think I will only get married when I want to have babies. I think otherwise, it would be unfair to the child to not give him/her a name. Till then, it doesn’t matter. You can be with whoever you want to. Marriage is just a technicality, it doesn’t change your love for that person.
I am very protective, territorial and sensitive about my friends. If I feel that they are neglecting me or I’m neglecting them or they aren’t visiting because they assume that I am extremely busy, I ask them to not assume things on my behalf. I really depend on them. I am also a very needy friend because I stay alone here and I do child-like things. I call my friends and am like, “You guys made a plan, why didn’t you come?’ They would say, ‘We felt you would be tired and all.” I just tell them not to assume that because even if I am tired, I will always make time to meet them. It’s very therapeutic to meet friends. Otherwise, I think that somewhere, dishonesty where people are not completely honest to my face, when they try to manipulate and mince their words, offends me. I have worked really hard to be where I am and I have not duped or manipulated anybody to come here. I am slightly naive that way where I expect everyone to do the same things.
No, I think I am slightly mature now that I am 31 years old. I feel that theek hai, I will keep my sanity. I try and control my anger, but when it comes to relationships, I can be child-like and cranky.
I don’t care what ranking people put me in. But if you ask about our friendship, it has not changed. I guess that’s an understanding we both have. Whatever our social interactions, it is very different from what happens at the box-office. We can’t make a film bigger or smaller by interacting socially. That’s a very immature, old-school way of thinking, maybe. We have an understanding where when we meet, we are the same. We haven’t done a film together after SOTY. But we spent a lot of time during the Dream Team tour. Since we know each other pehle se, it doesn’t matter ki yeh picture hit hui hai and yeh zyada paisa kamaya. I couldn’t make it for Dishoom, so I texted him. Things are the same between us, because our understanding with anyone on a personal level has nothing to do with the fate of my films. Both of us are aware of that and we are concentrating on what we have on our plates.
