Freedom from emotional baggage leads to inner truth

Every individual seeks joy and security. Fear of loss, fear of the unknown and fear of death is intrinsic to the human mind – therefore the mind always looks for happiness and emotional security. It is the natural tendency of the mind to seek a person or thing most likely to give hope of joy and security in an uncertain future and fit into the requirements of one’s needs. Because insecurities are deeply embedded in the human mind, one is unwittingly attracted to the source of apparent hope. And soon the mind spins a whole web of expectations around that thing or person. No one wishes to be alone or unwanted, so the mind plays all kinds of games and uses all kinds of ploys to seek attention and to make a positive impression on parents, teachers, friends and colleagues. 

The mind tends to lend a wide spectrum to its aspirations - it wants to grab everything which can give it a sense of worth! The mind suffers from the disease of possessiveness; it clings to objects and individuals as though this alone can make it happy or secure. And from here on, the dependency begins. This one line - I cannot live without you, is the trademark of dependency. 

Take a minute to think and look deep inside and see if you feel that you cannot live without something or someone. If the answer is yes, then certainly you are an emotional dependant. This fact is unrecognised and unaccepted by most people. That is why you end up suffering at your own hands. 

On the contrary, being emotionally responsible means not being vulnerable, but rather being conscious in one’s dealings with people. It also means to be conscious of mind and to observe one’s responses to people and situations. Unknowingly, the mind creates mental bondages and desires propelled by lust and greed which are then topped up with insecurities. If a virus infests your computer, you have it cleaned up. So it is always wise to have a good anti-virus system installed. Awareness is the anti-virus to the infection of dependency in the mind. But awareness does not happen in a day, one has to learn to develop and strengthen it with every passing day. A life lived without awareness is indeed a bed of thorns, of insecurities and of slavery.

The author is a guru, mystic and contemporary spiritual master. www.gurumaa.com 
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