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ShareI'd been hearing a lot about the value of having a life coach from many of my friends who also ran businesses, and I felt blessed that Julian had entered my life at this point in time. "How long will my transformation take?"
"Personal transformation is not a race. Actually, sometimes the harder you try to change, the longer it takes. So many people treat self-discovery like an extreme sport -- rushing to get all their healing at a frenetic pace. They read book after book. They visit guide after guide and attend seminar after seminar. They want to know the answers to the big questions . But people who cannot sit in the mystery of their lives and enjoy the process of personal growth is a person in fear."
"Really?" I asked, surprised to hear this. One of the dominant values of our society is "faster is better" and to hear Julian reject this notion only heightened the mystique that surrounded him and his untraditional philosophy.
"Trust that your timing is not necessarily nature's timing. Relax into the process. You are not meant to know all the answers, at least not right now. When you are ready for a piece of learning and a specific lesson, it will come. What fun would it be if you knew all the plot twists of a movie half-way into it? Your life is like a thriller, my friend -- half the fun is not knowing what's going to happen. Everything's always changing. The way you think it's going to unfold is not the way it's going to unfold. That's the fun; that's also the gift."
"What do you mean?"
"Part of the purpose of life is to learn to simply accept that it's all a mystery. Part of your journey is to learn to let go of all your fears about it not working out the way you want it to work out. Life will never work out the way you expect it to. Once you know that you can begin to relax. Just look how your life has unfolded. Has it turned out as you planned it would?"
"I've often thought, over the past few months, that I never imagined it would look like this."
"Right. If you reflect on my question longer, you will discover that while you may not have expected some of the lows, the same could be said for the high points of your life."
(Robin Sharma is the author of Discover Your Destiny (Jaico))
