Rainbow Guru: I’m confused. I’ve identified as a straight man all my life; am I gay?

Dear Rainbow Guru,
I just returned from a week-long staycation, and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about the masseuse at the hotel’s spa. On day one, I went in expecting nothing more than a massage. But towards the end, things heated up and I sort of gave in to the offer of a happy ending. I’m a man and so was the masseuse. After that, I went back for it every single day of my holiday and seemed to enjoy it more and more. Now that I’m back to my wife. I’m confused. I’ve identified as a straight man all my life; am I gay?
—Mr Not So Straight

Hi, Mr Not So Straight!

Let me begin by saying  — this is the most common experience I’ve heard from straight men. 
Man on man action is simply irresistible. But getting to the point, take the staycation as an opportunity that let you explore a side of you that you didn’t know existed. It happens to the best of us. You wouldn’t be aroused if you weren’t into it. Or perhaps the masseuse was a Greek god but I’m guessing the former is the case here. Looks like you’re open to the idea. You could probably wait for the next right guy to come along and if things look up then too —- perhaps you could begin questioning your sexuality more seriously then.

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