Relationship Thursday: 10 signs your relationship is going nowhere

Thursday, 29 May 2014 - 4:11pm IST | Place: Mumbai | Agency: DNA
Take a moment to think if any of these are staring at you in your relationship. The time to mend it or call it off is NOW, says Rama Sreekant
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1. Loud Silence
All that you can hear at the dinner table is a loud silence. Anyone can spot a couple who is still madly in love with each other or at least amicable enough that they enjoy each other’s company just by spying on them when they eat together. When all you see is two people sitting silently together as they eat, that usually is a sign that some of the sparks have dissipated from the relationship.

2. RIP Romance
Of course, some of the romancing dies a little, the longer you have been with someone, but if it dies out completely, then that may be a sign that things might indeed be over. Even if it only happens every now and again, some of that wooing needs to be there on both sides of the coin if the relationship is truly going to last. If there is none, then you may want to take a deeper look at things.

3. No Time for Love
It’s only natural that you are not going to spend every moment of every waking day with each other, but when you spend more and more time away from each other and it does not bother you at all… that can be a bad sign in the relationship. You remember the times he used to be very attentive. He used to always text, call, Skype, or email you and now... You’re the one planning outings, most of which he flakes out on. You have to initiate all texts and calls because he’s not doing it. This is usually a pretty clear sign that he doesn’t care the way he did anymore.

4. What if...
Even if you are not the kind of person who would ever want to cheat on someone, it can happen that you end up thinking about what it might be like to be with someone else. Whether or not you end up crossing the line and actually do find someone else to be with, it is not a good sign at all. It usually means that something is lacking in the relationship and if you don’t figure it out… it may be the end after all.

5. Love=Yes, Marriage=No
It is entirely possible to be attracted to someone, to even love them and not want to marry them. And if the other person is at a point in their life where they want to get married, then staying with them can be a bad thing. You may end up hurting them more by not owning up to how you feel. Hey, it happens, and as long as you know that this is how you feel, then maybe it is time to see if there is someone else out there for you.

6. Family comes first
For some people, this is not a make or break situation, but for many others it can be, If the person you are in a relationship with spends a lot of time with their family and their friends and you clash with them, then that can be an indication of things to come. Too much clashing and you may need to come to the realization that things just are not going to work out for the long term.

7. She doesn't really care about you
Whether it's because she no longer finds those annoying habits of yours cute, doesn't care when you screw up, doesn't care about what you like, or gives the flowers you bought to her mother, you know that things have changed. And to top it all off, she religiously begins going to the gym all of a sudden.
Get a grip and a new girl!

8. Body Language
Body language tells us many things about a person. A brow lift, lip smack, a lean, a stroke, a gaze, etc… these are all signs that he’s into you. But body language can also tell us when a man is just not that into you. An obvious sign is that he avoids any intimacy at all. If he’s not holding your hand, touching you, it’s a sure sign it’s over.

9. Where are we headed?
He’s no longer talking about the direction your relationship is going in because in his mind it’s already over. You’re waiting for a memo that he’s never going to send out. Instead he’s attempting to use that as a way of saying, “We’re done” without actually saying it.

10. You are constantly bickering
Arguing is a natural way to get things off your chest and emphasise what's upsetting or annoying you to improve your relationship in the long-run, but when things have soured to the point that you spend more of your time arguing than not, it's often time to raise the red flag. Don't be tempted to stick together when all you do is fight; as easy as this is to do, you will end up feeling even more miserable in the long run.

 




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