Early sex or happy romance in future?

Individuals who lose their virginity at an older age are likely to end up in a happy romance in adulthood, as compared to those who indulge in sex in their early teens, suggests a new study conducted by psychological scientist Paige Harden of the University of Texas. According to the study, people who wait to have sex are more satisfied in their relationships as an adult, even after bearing in mind the genetic and environmental factors, education level, income, religion, and physical attractiveness. Explained Harden, “Individuals who first navigate intimate relationships in young adulthood, after they have accrued cognitive and emotional maturity, may learn more effective relationship skills than individuals who first learn scripts for intimate relationships while they are still teenagers.”

Psychiatrist Hemant Mittal too is in agreement with this. He says, “Yes, it’s true that late bloomers have a happy romance later. And the reason for the same is that such people have an extreme need of affection and to be loved. They are possessive lovers who like attention as much as they like to give attention. And because of this they are more accommodating and adjusting in a relationship and also more understanding.” He further explains that these people have a lot of expectations in their head and all of it gets resolved when they find a partner to cling on to – leading to a happy       romance.

But how does this work for those who are players in their early teens? “For someone who has been a player — he/she understands break-ups with ease. They have a sense of individuality and strive for their own space. For instance, if a guy who’s been a player all his life, ends up married with kids, he will still not succumb to any idea that threatens to embark on his personal space and will not be scared to put his kids and wife at stake and opt for a divorce,” adds Hemant.