An adjunct Psychology Professor has compiled a list of all the signs, many people have seen and ignored, at the beginning of a relationship that can indicate whether or not it will last.
Jill Knapp’s list starts with the one who didn’t celebrate your birthday with you - whether you had a small get-together at a bar with a few of your friends or you sat at home watching ‘80s movies, the guy you’re dating should have been there unless you’re long-distance, you neglected to invite him or your boyfriend is out of town.
If someone really likes you, he wouldn’t want you to celebrate a holiday without him - whether it’s your birthday, an anniversary or Valentine’s Day - he should want to be there with you, the Huffington Post reported.
The one who says “we can’t be together, right now” – you meet a guy who seems amazing and you can’t believe how much the two of you have in common, how comfortable and natural it feels to be around this person. You probably never or hardly ever fight because it doesn’t feel like there’s something to argue about.
After a while of dating, right around the time where you decide you could really see a future with this guy, he drops the bomb on you. He says something along the lines of “I am still getting over my ex”, or maybe he’s focusing on his job or education and he asks you to just be patient.
A few more months go by and you begin to feel like nothing more than a glorified booty call. Sure, you never fight, but it's probably because he never opens up enough for you to see a side of him that would upset you. You get fed up and finally tell him it’s time the two of you went your separate ways, and he maturely understands. A month or two goes by, and out of the blue he’s calling asking you to hang out - the cycle begins again.
The one who is insanely jealous – if your boyfriend yells at you and starts calling you names for a simple thing like a dress that shows a little decolletage instead of just asking you to politely put on a cardigan because it makes him uncomfortable, he’s probably not the one.
It’s important to know the difference between the two – while you can argue that no one should ever tell you what to do, if the guy in your life genuinely feels uncomfortable, you should at least take the time to hear him out, but if he’s ordering you around and makes you feel scared or threatened, it’s time to kick him to the curb.
The one who never takes you out on a real date – it’s not about the money, you would be happy with a simple walk in the park. This is the guy who always invites you over to his place to “hang out”.
The guy who doesn’t make an effort to come over to your place to see you or pick you up for a date or even takes you to the movies. Not even one he wants to see. The two of you spend all of your time at his place, and you start to deliberately save text messages from him just to prove to your friends that you didn’t make him up.
Next comes the one who’s significantly older than you and refuses to spend time with your friends or family, but has the same taste in music as you and would be a really great boyfriend is he’d just stop drinking, finish college and go on that job interview that had been set up for him six months ago.
The one who is a jerk to everyone except you – he’s the guy you’ve just met who everybody tells you is bad news. The one who doesn’t seem to have any close friendships, has countless exes and is constantly putting people down - everyone except you.
This can make you feel special or even feel like you have a bond with the person, but in some cases the guy will drop you after he gets bored with the nice guy routine and find a new girl to prey on, and then you will end up joining the crew of people saying what a jerk he is.