Rick's Ramblings: My love does cost a thing

If you can buy me a Gucci bag, we can date and if you can buy me a monogrammed Louis Vuitton travel trunk set, we can couple. I know sounds golddigger-ish right, but it’s the reality of life! All we are saying is — you got to able to afford us. Don’t get me wrong, I have enough of my own Guccis already but can you buy me Gucci if I want? That’s the big question? So, there is this someone, who wanted to seriously date and be in a relationship and all that. So at our ritual brunch, I asked my girlies the big question, “do you think I can ask him this, ‘I’m okay to date you, you are cute and all but can you really afford to date me?’ My sweet little soft-hearted humanitarian, vegan, cruelty-free, friend almost fainted and said, ‘No baby, you can’t ask that, it is very unromantic, it’ll break his heart, you need to sneakily find out that, you can’t directly ask... it’ll look like that you are judging him financially and you’ll come across as a mean gold digging bitch, who wants him for his money, which you totally aren’t...’”

So, it made me wonder why... why can’t we ask the most basic simple question to the people we plan to date, why is it such a big deal? Well, we make it all romantic and all that in the beginning but there are some basic things that has to work, right? And if it doesn’t, it will eventually fall apart so why not ask simply rather than playing games to find it out, isn’t it better to ask and know it earlier than later?

Badi haveli ke Thakur sahab ki beti “Baby babli” dating Ramu Kaka’s son “Nathu Lal” and leaving the haveli and making chapatis wearing a cotton printed sari and living happily ever after on love and fresh air is very romantic yes and very early 80’s and that too fake 80’s... It doesn’t work like that anymore at least in the real world... We might not say it ever but finance is always a deciding factor when we think of dating someone seriously and fair enough, why not? We worked very hard to afford our eight-hour-long champagne lunches with friends and Paris trips and Balmain boots and it’s fair enough to ask someone that can match up, if not top it up, and I think it’s not unfair to find out if the person, who wants you actually can afford you. There’s nothing wrong with that. Judge me all you want, but you cannot live on love and chapatis in the real world like “Baby” and “Nathu Lal”  when you are used to champagne and crème brûlée.