Premarital sex is a very delicate topic and we often choose to not confer about it because of society or because it hurts religious sentiments. But sex is an important part of your life and should be prioritised rather than ignored.
Premarital sex is a very delicate topic and we often choose to not confer about it because of society or because it hurts religious sentiments. But sex is an important part of your life and should be prioritised rather than ignored.
While, many of us these days choose to experience sex before marriage, some of us take sort of a ‘purity pledge’ wherein a vow not to have sex before marriage is taken. But is premarital sex all that bad? Let us look at some of the pros and cons associated with it.
Pros
- Once you get married, sex will be a part of your life for obvious reasons. Hence, it is much better if you know about the same at an earlier stage of your life, and there is no better way than experiencing it firsthand. Here is a guide to first-time sex for women.
- In India, sex is considered a taboo and is generally not discussed in detail, which leave us uninformed about it. It is therefore much better to experience it before marriage so that you know how your body reacts to the hormonal changes. Adjusting to the same after marriage may be a pain, especially when you have a non-cooperating partner.
- Sex plays a big role in a successful marriage. Having premarital sex will help you know and understand the sex positions you are comfortable in. Trying them out before marriage will make you more confident in bed. Here are top kamasutra positions to add that zing to your sex life.
- Having a healthy sex life before marriage results in better mental and physical stability with your partner. Of course one can argue that the same can be achieved after marriage, but we are no longer living in dark ages where child marriages were rampant. It’s more likely that you will want to know and understand your partner much before you actually get married.
- There will be awkwardness and it may just be an exploration of each others’ bodies when you have sex for the first time. You may also face sexual problems like premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and even an allergy to your partner’s semen. It is always better to solve these issues before marriage so that you do not have to address them in the future. Here are some tips to deal with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
- These days, people generally marry when they are in their late 20s. However, your body is mature enough for sex after 18. It makes no point for one to starve for sex for such a long time. You can never predict the side effects it can result into. It is important to remember that everything has a right time and you can choose to do it whenever you want to.
Cons
- The biggest disadvantage of having premarital sex is that more often than not it is not safe. In most cases, contraceptives are not used, which leads to STDs and sometimes even results in abortions. FAQs on induced abortion are answered here.
- Having a physical relation with someone leads to greater emotional connect. In such cases, if any of the partners is not faithful, it can be emotionally disastrous for the other partner.
- In many cases having multiple partners before marriage results in a need for variety, which can lead to infidelity among partners after marriage.
- There is a factor of accountability that comes in after marriage which is often absent before marriage. There is always a risk of you being duped by your partner into videos and pictures which can obviously wreck your life.
We have dished out the pros and cons of premarital sex so that you can make an informed choice. The intention was neither to support nor oppose the concept but to clear doubts. One major myth following premarital sex is that most believe that the vagina loses its shape if you indulge in it. This is a complete myth and nothing of this sort happens. If this was true, no woman could have had sex after a normal delivery during childbirth. But what you should stress on are the following points –
- No matter whenever you have sex, before or after marriage, do ensure that it is safe and you are using contraceptives, unless you are planning a baby.
- Also, make sure you wash your private parts each time you have sex, to ensure and enforce hygiene.
- Make an effort to stop thinking about your performance in bed. You definitely do not deserve a partner who judges you on how long you can sustain.
Lastly, it is your body and your wish. Try not to let anyone take that decision for you. What matters is that you have a healthy sex life.
Originally published on www.thehealthsite.com
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