Jessica Alba works hard to keep the romance alive in her marriage since she had kids.
The Sin City actress – who has daughters Honor, three, and eight-month-old Haven with spouse Cash Warren – says anything from watching reality TV together to going out for a date night when the children are gone to bed has helped their relationship.
Writing in her blog for iVillage.com, she said: “Cash and I have found that maintaining a family schedule is the key to making time for each other. Whether we’re settling into the couch to watch bad reality television or getting a babysitter so we can enjoy a date night out, we always know we have dedicated time after the girls are asleep to catch up, discuss what’s on our minds, and simply just be with each other (no cell phones or e-mail allowed!).
Carving out this alone time is especially important after almost nine years together, too. Often feeling tired after a busy day at work and home, I know how easy it is to take each other for granted or let our relationship sit on the back burner and think, “It will be there tomorrow, now it’s time for sleep.” So, making time for our relationship in our daily routine -- even though it’s surprisingly predictable and may not seem as spicy as our spontaneous pre-kiddo days - really helps keep the romance alive.”
Although the couple have been together for nine years, Jessica says Cash still loves to make romantic gestures.
She said: “Maybe it’s because I’m 30 or maybe it’s because I’m a mom, but I don’t think romance is always about swinging from chandeliers (although it’s nice from time to time). It’s really about the small gestures too. Recently when filming a movie in Atlanta, Cash surprised me by having a beautiful bouquet of flowers delivered to the set. It was a simple, heartfelt surprise that let me know he was thinking of me during my time away from home. I loved it. He also takes over middle-of-the-night feedings, tends to fevers, and takes the girls to the park without me having to ask because he knows I need a break. All these things add to our romance.”