I am not in a relationship: Hrithik Roshan

Hrithik Roshan is rushing around, trying to meet deadlines as his next film and home production Kaabil releases this week. He apologises for reaching late as he’s been held up in some last-minute editing. He sprawls on his comfortable brown chair in his spacious apartment in Juhu and we settle down to talk about life, love and relationships...

How has living separately from your family changed you?

Living away from my family has not made me independent, but just shown me that distance doesn’t matter and situations that are perceived as bad can become a blessing. I would not have my life any other way than the way it is right now. That is because of my past and all the problems that I thought were problems, but now, when I look back I thank God and life for showing me that there was something better. They say that things always happen for the better, you also repeat it, but few experience it. I experienced it, so I am a true believer.

The last two years must’ve been emotionally tough on you. How did you handle it?

I love it because I am a problem solver. I remember when I was a kid, I used to sit with my cassette player and when it used to get spoilt, I would sit for hours in one spot, trying to fix it. I do that with life. I will not give up until I have solved a problem. It’s like a gym for my mind, I love the problems because every problem gives me the opportunity to learn something about the world, people or myself. So every problem I see, I search or predict about what I am going to learn about myself, the world and the way it is or about a certain person or people. So, I become very curious as to what it will bring out in me and for me, it becomes like a game. I am always observing and watching and it’s not a bad thing at all.

Have you regretted your actions in the past year, in any way?

Not at all! The past three years have been the best years of my life, actually! Because I have been through a lot personally, they have helped me become the person I am, they have helped me understand so much about myself,  about life and the world, and helped me to remodel my illusion about the way the world is. I am far more peaceful, knowing that I am living in the truth now.

Do you harbour any anger or bitterness towards a certain actress?

(Butts in) No. Holding grudges or being angry at someone is not me. I can’t be angry because it’s very stupid to be angry at people because human beings don’t know fully what they are doing, so you have to forgive them (smiles). I am talking, in general. I have never really needed to forgive at all because I understand the nature of human beings.

Are you cynical about love?

Not at all. I am full of love. I am in love with so many things… Love doesn’t have to be just one kind or for one person… I am fulfilled today. Love fills a vacuum in yourself and I don’t have any vacuums to fill today, so I am fulfilled.  

Are you in love with anybody at the moment?

No, I am not. I am not in a relationship.

Don’t you want to fall in love?

I know where you are coming from, but I am surprised that I don’t need that. I am not saying that I don’t enjoy the company of women, I enjoy that a lot in my life, but I don’t feel I need to fill any spaces. I am really leading a full life.